If it is of any consolation, take this advise from a Has-Been Teenager.
I was lamenting to this purposeful young adult, the eldest daughter of the Dream Family of the typical stress a parent goes through with parenting teenagers. I was eager to learn what I could do better to head towards moulding a Dream Family.
This young lady said something that was a huge consolation to all parents out there.
The age 12- 15 is the turbulent age. This is the age where the teenager is rude, inconsiderate and believes strongly that they are right, no matter what. But, as they cross that phase, the stability seeps in and things would turn brighter.
As I listened to her, I felt like she was speaking the words from my heart, words that I believe will eventually come true too, words to console myself when the clashes with the unreasonable teenager can be disheartening.
Well, since she has gone through this turbulent phase herself, I have every reason to want to believe her. So, parents out there, stay resilient and ride through the storm. Soon the sea will calm. And rainbows will colour your world !
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Our fourteen year old boy this week knocked on our door while we were busy. He then proceeded to text his father and say that the sound was annoying him and that we needed to stop. This enraged me. How dare he tell us what we should and should not do in our own home. This was about 11:00pm.
ReplyDeleteI think as parents, we all have something to learn from everyone, rude teenagers included. Often our feedback sounds more like commands, immdiately throwing the other party on the defensive. It is often the case that the delivery almost always makes others miss the real point ! I am guilty too. I think your teenage boy wished to let you know how the bedroom noises affects him. If you think it matters to tone down, then issue solved. I would feel embarrassed rather than raged !
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